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Many books has been written on how to form a new habits and how important it is in order to be productive and successful. It is an easy concept that most people intellectually understand.

The issue might come up when we try to form a habit, so it becomes our second nature. Ideally we can rewire our brain in a way that new habits will support us instead of. In reality it is not that easy. You can still form a habit, but is that habit is the most effective habit possible for you?

What do you think is the most important resource we have to enjoy life and be productive and successful?

It is our energy. In a way we are energy. If we have high level of energy we can sustain high pressure, stress , conflicts and stay positive and optimistic.

Mental energy is highly consuming because of countless connections between neurons in our brain. Each thought can fire millions and millions of neurons. And all that takes energy.

We as humans suppose to have high level of energy by design. It is the case if we live and stay close to natural resources. In that case our energy(vibration) is in sync with natural environment. Most of us live in cities where we lost our natural intuitive abilities. Civilization structured in such a way that something or someone consistently drains our energy. What drains us energy the most?

It is the inner conflict between our different brains.

Brain Theory

In the 1960’s Dr. Paul MacLean at the National Institute for Mental Health, expanding on the work of James Papez, described a three part concentric layering structure to the human brain.

The outermost layer is the neomammilian brain (Mammalian Brain), the neocortex which is the seat of thought and most voluntary movement.

The next layer inward is the paleomamalian brain, composed of the limbic system, the seat of our emotions and autonomic nervous system.

In the innermost portion is found the reptilian brain, composed of the brain stem, midbrain, basal ganglia and other structures.

Each brain serves different functions with some overlap, but what Dr.MacLean postulates is that the integration, or coordination between the brains is inadequate, a genetic problem in our species.

All three of these brains interact with each other to make up what and how we think, consciously and subconsciously. They can act in a contradictory or complimentary manner to one another leading to spectacular or terrible results. But it takes all three to make us what we are.

You can think about relationship between those brains as heart body mind relationship or mental physical emotional relationship.

The mind, or neocortex, is the part of ourselves we most often think of as who we are. It perceives itself in the head, and it is the part of us that forms judgments, handles short term memory, and does abstractions like mathematics.

The heart is the limbic system in the brain, yet perceives itself in the chest, probably because this is the area of its primary biological responsibility and sensory awareness. It allows us to feel emotions, and be either positively or negatively emotionally aware of the presence of others.

The body consciousness is composed of the tissues at the base of our skulls, and probably other distributed systems in our body. It experiences itself in the lower belly, its area of major biological function. This brain gives us a sense of time and our ability to feel sexuality. We communicate with this brain when we do dowsing or muscle testing.

What does all this mean to you?

Each of our 3 brains is independent. You may see how those 3 brains can be in conflict. For example imagine that you like to eat chocolate. You physical part of you (action) wants it badly. Intellectual part of you (thoughts) understands that it might not be the right choice at the moment and it is better not to eat chocolate right now because of weight benefit. Emotional part of you (emotions) might bring different feelings of guild because of this act.

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We often have problem to follow through on tasks, procrastinate a lot and not really sure what we want to do when we grow up. I’ve been struggling with that most of my life and felt frustrated and disappointed because I couldn’t figure out my purpose and I wasn’t sure what I really want to do with my life.

That brought total mess and limited me in many ways. I won’t want this for anyone and I know that most people are struggling with the question of purpose, passion and COMMITMENT.

I like everything even closely related to self-improvement, but lets be honest. A lot of things we hear are really good information but often what self-improvement gurus are saying we don’t get on a deep level from the first time or even after 100 times.

Here the example. A lot of people talk about commitment. “You must be committed before you can really be or do something great”. Well, I understand that and I know that I need to be committed but how? What is the commitment? I want to be committed, but how I do it?

I worked for this really cool network marketing company. They are greatest thing since sliced bread, but I couldn’t make any money with them. Every day I heard the phrase, “you have to be committed.” I agreed with that and here I am months later and still don’t make any money. I knew for sure that I wasn’t committed, but I didn’t know why I wasn’t and didn’t know how to fix it.

I really believe in network marketing industry (not pyramid schemes - network marketing), I knew they doing a right things for people. Company have inspiring mission too, but still no commitment from my part.

To make the long story short, I am still associated with them, but I am not active. More importantly I figure out why I wasn’t committed and therefore couldn’t make money.

Here is why.

My internal values and the way I projected myself into the future wasn’t totally in line with multiple activities I need to be doing inside the company to be successful.

In other words I had a conflict between my inner reality that I wanted for myself and reality of what I will be doing in a company in a long run. They wasn’t in sync. My thinking was a long term. I thought that if I will be working with them, it has to be forever and that I need to be totally aligned and see myself with them far into the future. But I didn’t see, myself this way.

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We often feel urge to get things done and do not feel happy when something didn’t get completed. What we often forget is that being fulfilled and having a lot of things done fast may not be the same thing. A lot of people work long hours without even enjoying what they do. Most people seemed busy. Being busy doesn’t necessarily mean productive and fulfilled. Sometimes the opposite is true - the more things we need to get done the more stress we feel.

When we present we have more things done in less time and at the same time feel energetic and alive. Most energy derived from being in a present moment. What can give us ability to stay in a present and be fully engaged? It is the ability to manage our energy effectively on multiple levels.

Small Things Ads Up

Bad habits still running our lives and we usually tend to have a lot of them. Each one taking our energy on an unconscious level and a lot of those old patterns adds up quickly and by the time we even get up from bad in the morning, we already on our way to waste a lot of energy which is trapped in our body as an emotion. Its can be changed by taking control of our energy.

We need to take an inventory and figure out what taking energy from us and what gives us energy. Do you know what gives you satisfaction and good emotions? Let’s assume that working on your business activities is giving you energy. Do you know which activities in your business will give you the most leverage?

From reading what successful people do and by studying business fundamentals I know that is probably 2 types of activities:

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personal talents

This is a third post in 3 post series on how to discover personal talents through self-assessments.

First post covered Kolbe assessment. Second post is about Strength Finder 2.0

Today we will cover Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® (MBTI)

First who invented the theory of personality types was Carl Gustav Jung. He is the founder of Analytical Psychology. Jung emphasized the importance of balance and harmony. He cautioned that modern people rely too heavily on science and logic and would benefit from integrating spirituality and appreciation of unconscious realms.

He considered the process of individuation necessary for a person to become whole. This is a psychological process of integrating the conscious with the unconscious while still maintaining conscious autonomy. Individuation was the central concept of Analytical Psychology.

Jung collaborated with Sigmund Freud and they supported each others theories. In Jung’s famous book “The Psychology of Unconscious” he introduced different from Freud’s views on unconscious and their professional relationship ended.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment designed to measure psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions. These preferences were extrapolated from the typological theories originated by Carl Gustav Jung, as published in his 1921 book “Psychological Types“.

From Wikipedia:

Katharine Cook Briggs and her daughter, Isabel Briggs Myers were original developers of the personality inventory. They began creating the indicator during World War II, believing that a knowledge of personality preferences would help women who were entering the industrial workforce for the first time identify the sort of war-time jobs where they would be “most comfortable and effective The initial questionnaire grew into the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, which was first published in 1962. The MBTI focuses on normal populations and emphasizes the value of naturally occurring differences.

The primary theory behind the MBTI is that each person’s personality fits into only one of 16 types. These categories are based on four features of personality, each consisting of two opposite preferences. According to the theory, all people have an innate preference that determines how they will behave in all situations.

The four dimensions are:

Favorite world: Do you prefer to focus on the outer world or on your own inner world? This is called Extroversion (E) or Introversion (I).

Information: Do you prefer to focus on the basic information you take in or do you prefer to interpret and add meaning? This is called Sensing (S) or Intuition (N).

Decisions: When making decisions, do you prefer to first look at logic and consistency or first look at the people and special circumstances? This is called Thinking (T) or Feeling (F).

Structure: In dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).

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Today I came across video where Steve Job gave a speech in front of college graduates and Stanford University.

He simply tell 3 stories from his life

The first story is about connecting the dots.

The second story is about love and loss.

The third story is about death.

IF nothing else please spend 14 minutes to watch this video and I am not afraid to say that this may change your life

Steve never graduated from college and he shared those stories to bring several important and unforgettable points

You’ve got to find what you love. And it is as as true for work as it is for you lovers. Your work is going to feel the large part of your life and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is a great work and the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking and don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.

Steve Jobs

Here is the video:

You’ve got to find what you love

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This is the second post in 3 post series on how to discover and become aware of personal talents through self-assessments.

In my first First post I covered Kolbe Assessment. Please read my last post to find out more about Kolbe.

Today I will cover Strength Finder 2.0 assessment.

Let’s get right into it and find out what is about and is it worth to bother to take the test.

Test is provided by Gallup Research Organization. Gallup has studied human nature and behavior for more than 70 years.

Gallup’s reputation for delivering relevant, timely, and visionary research on what people around the world think and feel is the cornerstone of the organization.


How did I find out about them?

I did some research on Amazon some time ago and discovered a book by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton “Now, Discover Your Strengths“.

Marcus Buckingham worked for Gallup organization as a Sr. Researcher. He is not longer with them. He opens his own company The Marcus Buckingham Company. You can get more information about him here.

Marcus Buckingham spent years interviewing thousands of employees at every career stage. He is widely considered one of the world’s leading authorities on employee productivity and the practices of leading and managing.

According to Marcus:

Companies that focus on cultivating employees’ strengths rather than simply improving their weaknesses stand to dramatically increase efficiency while allowing for maximum personal growth and success.

Marcus Buckingham has been the subject of in-depth profiles in The New York Times, Fortune, Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, USA Today and the Wall Street Journal.

Donald O. Clifton, Ph.D., was cited by the American Psychological Association as the Father of Strengths Psychology and the Grandfather of Positive Psychology. He was a chairman of Gallup, Inc., and he invented the Clifton Strengths Finder assessment.

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It is not a big secret that most people are not aware of their personal talents and therefore do not live to their full potential. I was totally miserable trying to figure out why I didn’t like my job or why can’t I follow through on certain subjects. I wanted to figure out why I do things the way I do it. I wanted to find out about my talents, then refine them and turn them into strengths. It is an ongoing process of refining personal talents and it should never end.

Although there are multiple ways to uncover personal talents, taking perosnal tests is the easiest way to do that. It takes most guesses out to the picture. People spent decades figuring out the question of talent. Now we can take advantage of all of their research. It is incredible.

If you into self-development and personal growth field, you most likely already tried to identify ways to discover what you most good at. I am the same. I tried to figure stuff out about myself for years. I discovered a lot of things about me and my personality. Taking various assessments helped me to become much clearer on what my talents are which brought me to totally new level of understanding myself.

Here are the 3 assessments I found most effective that work great to uncover your personal talents:

1. Kolbe Index A Assessment

2. Strength Finder 2.0

3. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

Today I want to talk about one of the assessments I took and you can take too to get clear on your innate talents. It is Kolbe Assessment. Lets take a look on what is about and is it worth it or not to take the test.

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attention span

It’s not our fault our generation has short attention spans, Dad. We watch an appalling amount of TV.

Yeardley Smith

Information Overload: excess amount of information being provided, making processing and absorbing tasks very difficult for the individual because sometimes we cannot see the validity behind the information

Wikipedia

We live in interesting and exciting time. Growth rate of information is staggering and growing each and every day. We have more information available to us than in any time in history.

We can learn anything we want and get any information available to us with a push of a button. It is very convenient. It seems that we should be happy and appreciative that now we don’t have to spend our precious time going to the library and doing research that might take days, weeks or even months. Paradoxically it causes more frustration and disappointment and makes us feel more unhappy and unfulfilled.

Attention span is dropping with each and every day. The more information becomes available the more we need to be selective on which information to process and which to ignore. It causes our attention span go down dramatically.

“The addictive nature of web browsing can leave you with an attention span of nine seconds - the same as a goldfish,” said the BBC in 2002. “Our attention span gets affected by the way we do things,”

Here are several major causes of information overload:

  • More information than we can process
  • Value of information decreases
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energy sources

Performance, health and happiness are grounded in the skillful management of energy

Tony Schwartz

Many factors responsible for how we feel on a daily basis. In fact there are so many factors that it is hard to be aware and recognize everything that influence our mood and satisfaction. Fortunately there is one concept if understood can help us to become aware of how we feel each and every day and why we feel in a certain way. And this concept is managing our energy in systematic manner.

Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz wrote book called: The Power of Full Engagement. They introduce the concept of Energy Management.

Managing Energy, not time, is the key to high performance

System they introduced is not new but the way they lay it out is profound. I have very similar concept of 4 energy levels, but I never realized it until I’ve read this wonderful book. In fact it is probably one of the best books I can’t recommend highly enough.

Tony and Jim work with professional athletes, most of the time with tennis players and they are highly respected authority on high performance and full engagement in work and in life.

4 Fundamental Sources of Energy

There are 4 fundamental sources of energy.

1. Physical
2. Emotional
3. Mental
4. Spiritual
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Here is 5 fulfillment quotes that is good to remember:

“It is not in the pursuit of happiness that we find fulfillment, it is in the happiness of pursuit.”

Denis Waitley

“As long as anyone believes that his ideal and purpose is outside him, that it is above the clouds, in the past or in the future, he will go outside himself and seek fulfillment where it cannot be found. He will look for solutions and answers at every point except where they can be found–in himself.”

Erich Fromm

“Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity.”

Viktor Frankl

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