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Self-Fulfillment is a process. I was thinking about choices we as humans make and came to realize that there are two types of people in the world. Those who do what they love for a living and those who don’t. I is actually quite obvious and profound at the same time.
One power we always have available to us is a power of choice.
There are several choices we need to make to get to that level.
What is the solution that will make it possible to get from making a living into category of having an enjoyable fun lifestyle where is making a living and having fun is all the same.
Here is several important steps for self fulfillment which can not be ignored
1. Stop Blaming or Complaining and Take Responsibility
Recently I get involved into not so pleasant conversation with my friend. He sent me a facebook email blaming me for something I’ve done.
He ended relationship with his girlfriend couple of weeks ago. He got mad at me because I talked to her already ex girlfriend on a party. He didn’t expect me to talk to here because they weren’t together anymore. He was blaming me that I betrayed him in some way. I had really hard time to understand, how is that talking to her make me betray or disrespect my friend.
We all have different rules for how we behave and expect others to behave. We are all unique and there is no way you can like everyone. Also there is no way that all people will like you.
I realize that blaming someone or something for what happened is path to frustration and disappointment. When we blame someone, we give out control. People usually like to be in control and freaked out when they are out of control.
The opposite of blaming is to take responsibility. This way we are in control and don’t have to depends on external circumstances to gain it.
That is a first step in a process of creating life you want for yourself and become much more calm and happy in the process.
2. Take Courage to Face a Problem
Have courage to finally admit there is something might not be the way you want it.
Ignorance is not a bliss.
Psychologically, when we don’t want to admit that there is something missing in some area, we tend to ignore a problem and push it on a back of our minds. We think that hopefully someday we will come back and get this handled. It is short term vs. long tern thinking. We tend to ignore it, because in our mind there is no harm for us at this moment. We tend to forget that it will fire up at some point later with compounded power (sort of like a compound interest, but in opposite direction)
How many people you have met, let say yesterday, that understand intellectually that they need to eat healthier or need more exercises or need to spend more time with their family. I am sure you know some people like that. I surely have met couple of them yesterday.
Become aware and admit that there is something might need improvement right now and not tomorrow.
3. Dare to Dream
Now that we brave enough to take responsibility and recognize area that need improvement we can look and see where we want to be in terms of desired outcome and how we can get there in as much pleasant way as possible (very important). Now we are ready for our master plan of attack to close the gap.
4. How About Some Actions?
Now we are Responsible, Aware and it is time to take actions and make things happen. Without action nothing is possible and that is part where most people get in trouble including myself. If you get clear on what you want, identify obstacles that preventing you from reaching your outcomes then action is easy. Most people don’t know what they want and if they know, they doubt their abilities to get desired outcome.
That is general steps, we will take a look on specific action steps in one of my next posts.
Stay tuned
